(This is a post that I'm not sure I fully agree with. I'm sure there are flaws. I'm sure there can be a better argument presented. I'm sure there will be many who don't agree, and perhaps I might be one of them in the future. Regardless, this is raw, and I wanted to express it.)
I have a friend who fascinates me. This girl, Josie, is quite unlike any girl I've met before. Let me take a second to clarify that this is not a crush-induced post. We are simply friends, good friends in fact, and I plan on keeping it that way.
The thing about Josie is she is very...how should I put this...effeminate. These are the types of girls that guys like to tease, because it's so easy to do. Except with her, this is actually quite difficult. Underneath her predictable surface, the girl I expect her to be, she's actually quite rational.
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Here is a girl that knows what she likes and doesn't like, and to me it's quite a rarity. She's a girl that's straightforward, something that's been described of me, and I think that's why I like being around her. I never have to guess. We can be ourselves. It's freeing, to be able to be so honest about everything. Even if we don't agree, it's not about right or wrong, it's just about us and who we are.
Knowing what you want is important, even if it might change someday. Perhaps there are some things we don't know, but the thought and effort put into figuring it out, I feel needs to be there. Because we constantly try to define ourselves with what everyone else has. What they like. What might be new or interesting or profound. Everything in America tries to tell us what we want, who we want to be, and what's acceptable for society. This is why people go a long time trying to figure out who they are, because they are always looking at others to find their identity, to see who they're like.
But it's actually quite simple to know who you are. Just figure out what you want. Now. In this moment. What do you like. What do you not like. What do you not compromise on. What really matters to you. What makes you happy. What can you live without.
It's not about material things.
It's about you.
Just be blatantly honest. Don't hold back. Show people, this is who I am, and they will either love you or hate you for it, but never in-between.
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